But let’s unite next week, because I’m busy procrastinating this week, Ok? I’m dead serious. This week I’ve been procrastinating so much I’ve been driving myself so crazy that I’ve decided to stop it at once like…on Monday.
Lately I’ve been sighing loudly, and getting moths in my stomach every time I check my to do list. (Butterflies are the good nervous feeling you get in your stomach, like when you see eye candy, or he smiles at you, or you’re eating your favorite candy, or when Johnathan Meyers comes on the screen. Moths are the bad nervous felling you get in your stomach, like when you check your to do list only to realize you can cross off only one or two items of the ten you had written down.)
However, I have managed to get a few things down this week, including changing the blogger background, improving it somewhat, and adding a favicon. Am I proud of my “advancing web skills”? Yes, Yes I am. (That right there, was a Phineas and Ferb allusion.) Along with finishing up quite a few things for school, and making it to the gym, I’d say the week is progressing pretty well. One thing I’ve been procrastinating for a while now, is a post I’ve been planning to write. It was spurred by a November NaBloPoMo (I’ll stop talking about that, one day) post prompt, was along the lines of the question “How do you manage to make time for your family.”
Obviously I can’t say I’m a pro at managing time, career and family, because, well, I’d say to qualify as a pro you’d have to have at least one child, and at least one job. But I do, however, have an opinion on this question. (I most always do.)
The thing is, many people think of family time as something they need to “take time off” for. As in, set aside a couple days, or hours for being with your family. As much as this can be good, necessary, and wonderful, sometimes it’s just not possible.
But it is possible to have “family time” without taking a whole day off from the rest of your world. It’s in the little things. The in between things. The unobtrusive minutes. Those few seconds you take to admire a picture drawn or colored, those few minutes you spent listening to excited chatter about a future event. That effort you put into dragging yourself from your desk that is piled high with things you’ve got to accomplish, just to go check out something that’s been put together by little hands, or to help out frustrated minds with their homework. The decision you make to put your phone down for just a little bit, just this once, to give someone ten minutes of your time, just to help them with a daily chore.
These small things, these humble little minutes come together to form big memories. Sure, the planned vacation, the exotic place, the week spent together might have loads of photos, get the glory, and hold the place of honor in the scrapbook, but the minutes taken throughout the day are what will be remembered and cherished. I’ll always remember our Europe vacations, but I’ll never forget Daddy helping me with my math homework, and mother helping me compile recipes for my Home Ec. project. Victor too, will remember ski and camping trips, but he’ll never forget the time Daddy spends working with him on his RC car, and mother helping him with his stamp collection. It’s often the little things, the details, the unplanned, that will become the most cherished remembrances.
Don’t ignore or pass up chances to fulfill those little opportunities to take time for your family. When your child shows you their newest invention, their newest drawing, make a big deal out of it, show them for three minutes that you care and that they’re important. While you do that, notice the smile, notice the shimmer in his/her eyes. Notice the opening up of their little faces, full radiance and joy.
Because you made time, to listen, to see, because you made time…for them.