“As I Have Loved You”

Hello, dear reader!

Today we’re talking about a subject that I, personally, really enjoy.

Let’s start by talking about the capital of our body: the brain. Its main cells are called neurons. Studies show that there are approximately 86 billion neurons connected to others that together perform the functions of the brain and our entire body.

Let’s picture the brain as a city full of neighborhoods and streets; that’s more or less how it works. Memories, conflicts, sadness, and joy are stored at different addresses and delivered to the nervous system, to the digestive system, etc.

There are many windows in our capital city. The most well-known windows are what, in his book Intelligent Women, Healthy Relationships, Dr. Augusto Cury calls Killer and Light windows, where negative and positive memories are stored. When we engage or talk to other people, we activate one of these windows in our brains and in theirs.

For example: when we praise or compliment someone, we create a memory that’s sent to the Light window, making them feel motivated, happy with themselves, and, above all, able to be and do better.

Now, when we degrade or offend someone, we automatically activate the Killer window and, in all likelihood, that person will have difficulty feeling capable of doing and being better. This is where trauma and disappointments are stored.

Which window do we normally activate through our daily interactions with those we love?

Writer, Ellen White, tells us:

The voice and tongue are gifts from God, and if rightly used, they are a power for God. Words mean very much. They may express love, devotion, praise, melody to God, or hatred and revenge. Words reveal the sentiments of the heart. They may be a savor of life unto life or of death unto death. The tongue is a world of blessing or a world of iniquity.

Mind, Character, and Personality, vol. 2, p. 572

In this small paragraph, we realize how words influence us and our neighbor and how, when used wisely, they have divine power.

The words of men express their own human thoughts, but those of Christ are spirit and life.

Mind, Character, and Personality, vol. 2, p. 573

Jesus, the wisest Man who ever lived, spoke with meekness, love, and peace. He applied the fruits of the Spirit in His daily life (Galatians 5:22-23) and that was what set Him apart from all other human beings.

He used:

  • Encouraging words;
  • Expressions of comfort;
    Language that was clear and easy to understand;
  • With wisdom and tact, He went straight to the point of each matter;
    And, above all, He touched the heart and aroused the sympathy of His followers.

If we learn to work these words in our daily lives, we will be better people and, above all, others will feel good when they spend time with us. Christ was constantly teaching His disciples how to relate with others. This lesson He also left for us, that we might also follow His example.

Dear friend! We need to learn to be more loving towards our brothers and sisters. We must use words of encouragement and comfort to everyone who needs us. While we don’t always notice the importance of our words, they have great influence, both in motivation and in the functioning of the brain.

We must love our neighbor and, whenever possible, activate their Light windows, with love and care.

Do everything with love!

1 Corinthians 16:14

But remember, none of this is possible without divine insight and wisdom. Trying to learn how to relate to others without Jesus—the Master Relater—will be a wasted effort. So pray and always ask for Christ’s help. He will hear you!


My commandment is this: Love one another as I have loved you. ”

John 15:12

May the love of Jesus be in your heart, and may it be delivered in the lives of others through you.

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