How to Deal with Pre-Wedding Stress

Premarital stress syndrome, pre-wedding jitters, or pre-wedding anxiety are all terms for that tension and inconstancy of feelings that commonly arise during the wedding planning phase. Suddenly there’s a significant amount of new tasks to undertake, likely elevating stress and anxiety levels. It’s important that you learn to cope with this stress so that the days leading up to this important day in your life are lighter and more enjoyable. Anxiety tends to show up when planning something big and important, which is often accompanied by the fear that things won’t go as planned.

To work through this challenge, focus on the reasons that have motivated you so far, and don’t disconnect from them, not even for a minute. It’s often said that a wedding day is an unforgettable event, and it is, but what little is said is that the wedding planning phase will also remain in your memories forever. This is a very intense period when you will make lasting memories. So, in order to be fully present and enjoy this stage, take care of yourself! Preserve your physical and mental health. Below are some practical tips:

  1. Take care of yourself – Between work, wedding planning, and your daily tasks, take time to relax, whether that means going to the gym, practicing a sport, taking a long bath, skincare, or a spa day, make sure to implement some time for yourself. Remember to eat healthy food and make time for a hobby.
  2. Sleep well – Be kinder to your sleep routine during these adrenaline-rich times. Invest in teas that help improve sleep quality and reduce screen exposure at night. Put your phone to charge in another room and put the computer away early. Sleeping well is essential for physical and mental health. It also reduces unwanted dark circles!
  3. Try not to be too fixated on dates – Having a planner or calendar that counts exactly how many days are left until the big day is important, but be careful not to make it an obsession or something that takes away your sleep.
  4. Keep your budget organized – If everything is accounted for and on schedule, there’s no reason to think that money is an issue. Download our TGW wedding planning spreadsheet to help!
  5. If you choose to hire professionals to organize and execute your wedding – Research, inform yourself, be sure of your choices, and once the vendor is hired, make it very clear what you want. Make sure you are on the same page, so you can trust the professional’s work and reduce potential stressors.
  6. Don’t leave everything to the last minute, keep each item listed – What’s already done; what is being done; and what will be done. Organization is the basis for everything. Download our wedding planner e-book and keep it updated as you go.
  7. Enjoy the moment – You’re getting married! Planning your wedding is a unique moment, from the invitations, party favors, menu, to picking out the dress. It can, and should, be fun, light, memorable. Take a deep breath, a step back, enjoy!

I wish you a lot of peace and happiness in your wedding preparations. Hand over your plans and dreams to God. I dedicate to you what is written in Philippians 4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”


No event—not even your wedding—is more important than your mental health. As a result, always seek professional help. It’s important to be physically and emotionally fit for the big day. Don’t let details get in the way.

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